When we were kids, summer was supposed to be the easy season.

No homework. No early alarms. No permission slips hiding at the bottom of backpacks.

Freedom.

What nobody tells you is that for a lot of neurodivergent people - and the people who love them - summer is basically one giant routine disruption.

The school schedule disappears.
The camps start and stop.
Vacation happens.
Visitors show up.
Bedtimes become suggestions.
Screen time somehow doubles.
And every day feels just different enough to keep your brain from settling into any kind of rhythm.

Meanwhile, parents are trying to figure out how they're supposed to work, feed everyone, keep the house from becoming a disaster, and remember which kid needs to be where on which day.

Adults aren't exactly getting off easy either.

Work is still happening. Projects are still due. Meetings are still meeting.

But now everyone is navigating vacations, coverage schedules, changing routines, and whatever chaos the summer decides to throw at them this week.

And if you've felt a little more scattered, overwhelmed, distracted, or exhausted than usual lately, there's a good chance you're not doing anything wrong.

You might just be experiencing what happens when the structures you rely on quietly disappear.

So this month, we wanted to talk about summer transitions, masking, what's actually helping us right now, and why it's okay if your routines are looking a little different than they did a few months ago.

Because sometimes surviving the season is enough.

June has been a bit of an experimental month for us here at NeuroLocker - at least for our social media content.

Because we’re building more than an app here. We’re building resources, education, and support that people can actually use.

The biggest thing we are seeing this month from the community is the fact that people are struggling more than they expected to.

Summer is supposed to the the “easy” part of the year because of school being out, schedules being lighter, and the weather being hotter (Texas weather am I right?)

But it actually just feels like so much more of a struggle because all of the responsibilities continue to be responsibilities, just without the normal structure everyone is used to. Many of the external supports we rely on throughout the year quietly disappear for these few months.

The school bell schedule.
The predictable morning routine.
The regular extracurricular activities.
The structure that helped us know what day it was without having to think about it.

For many neurodivergent people, those things weren’t restrictions - they were anchors. And when those anchors disappear, it can take time to adjust.

We've also noticed another trend this summer: people are spending more time online than usual.

Between summer break, changing schedules, and major events like the FIFA World Cup dominating social media feeds, screen time is up for a lot of people right now.

And while there's absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying those things, it can make it harder to maintain routines when every day starts feeling a little different from the one before it.

If your summer doesn't feel as productive as you planned...
If your routines have gotten a little messy...
If you're finding yourself more overwhelmed than you expected...

You're not failing at summer. You're adapting to a major transition. And transitions - even good ones - take energy.

Something I did differently this month was that I allowed myself to get very personal online.

Yes, our story i on the internet already, but that mostly focuses on the struggles that my brother faced and my reactions to them - not the struggles I was personally going through.

And I was going through a lot.

I just never told anyone that I was.

And so during our Masking week on social media, I allowed a little bit of my own story to be told. I wrote a blog about what life was like for me personally before, during, and after I realized I was masking, how other people reacted to it, how I’m still dealing with it, and everything in between that I could reasonably fit into a 10-15 minute-read blog.

And it terrified me to do that.

Because I have spent so much of my life masking, that it took me so long to even realize that I was masking in the first place. And after everything I was going through during high school, college, and personally, I was so scared for someone I knew during those stages of life to read it and recognize that I wasn’t actually as okay as I let them think I was.

But I also realized that if I wanted to be able to connect with people, I had to share my personal story - not just the backstory that relates to how I built the company.

And even though I am still terrified to put this on the internet, I realized something when making the blog and the content for that week. People - real people - were relating to the videos.

That saying about how “you never know what someone is actually going through” that people always think is cheesy or overused? I lived it. Every single day. For over seven years. And barely anyone knew it. It took me probably four of those years for myself to realize I was doing it, let alone be able to tell someone about it.

So I just want to leave you with this - whoever is reading this, whenever you’re reading it - just know that it will not be an easy road. You literally have to take things one day at a time, because sometimes that’s all you can manage. And that’s okay. But know that someone is in your corner, whether you think they are or not. And if that person is me, well welcome to the corner - it’s only about 90 degrees here 😉.

So I wanted to give y’all a couple of ideas of things that are working for us this month while we try and navigate the craziness that is summer break.

All the people in my family have ADHD. Which means there are messes and piles that make my OCD brain hurt sometimes.

Something we have found that works for our family is that I can clean a room very well. So what we do is occasionally, I will pick a room or a section of a room, and I will do a deep clean on it - put everything away where it actually goes, wipe down all the surfaces, sweep and mop (if necessary).

Then, I observed which areas I would consider “drop zones.” These are the areas that usually pile up the quickest, get the dirtiest, and always have something sitting there that doesn’t belong.

So what I do is I will wait for a few weeks, then come through and spend an afternoon putting everything in that drop zone away and put it back to that cleanliness level that my mom loves, but cannot do on her own due to her ADHD.

Obviously, this won’t work for everyone, but sometimes just having someone else come through and cleaning even a small section of a room can help the room feel cleaner.

Sometimes there is just too much on my to-do list that it can feel overwhelming and it makes it hard for me to know where to start. When I start to feel like things are getting overwhelming, I like to block off days where I will decide to complete different items on that list.

I like to designate two to three items on the list that I know I can do for each day around my work and personal schedule, and do that for the week. I then try and focus on only those items for the day - blocking off time specifically to work on those items - and if they are completed I can decide how much brain power I have left to see if I can complete/start something else, or if I am done for the day.

This system has worked really well for me over the past few weeks so that I make sure that I accomplish everything that needs to be done without overthinking just the overall list that seems to keep growing every day.

But as always, there are days where I can’t accomplish everything, so I have to pivot. When there was something on the day’s list that couldn’t get done, I would move it to the next day’s list (or somewhere later in the week if it could wait) and try to accomplish it then so I don’t get too off track.

Keeping these blocks in time increments that I know work for me - 1-2 hour blocks, doing them during a time I know I have the least amount of possible interruptions - has allowed me to complete so much more on my list that I originally thought, especially when I get in the flow and am able to overachieve on my tasks for the day.

Summer doesn’t need to be scheduled down to the minute, but having some plans or ideas can help the time go by.

I wanted to give y’all a suggestion for teens for something to do this summer that isn’t another movie/TV show, work, or hanging out with friends, and isn’t talked about enough.

Plant Fitness does this thing every summer where kids ages 14-19 are able to get a free pass to workout during the summer months. This gives kids an opportunity to get out of the house while also being able to keep active while school is out.

While I know this program isn’t for everyone, their entire motto is the “Judgement Free Zone” where anyone can come workout, put their headphones on, and just be in the zone without worrying about who is staring at you, or what people are doing around you.

Most locations are also 24/7, so access is there for whenever you have the time to go!

Use this link to sign up today: https://www.planetfitness.com/summerpass

What’s one thing helping you survive your summer right now?

Not your perfect system.

Not the thing you wish you were doing.

The thing that’s actually working.

Hit reply and tell us.

We want to know all the suggestions you have!

(Yes, this goes to a real human.)

If any of this was relatable, you’re exactly who we’re building NeuroLocker for.

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No perfect system required.
Just support where it actually matters.

Talk soon,

Sophea

Co-Founder, NeuroLocker